Blunt - Abrupt and often disconcertingly frank in speech
This is a short post because there is an easy response to this. I had a friend that hurt people's feelings with the "truth" in pursuit of honesty. Apparently, people liked him because of it. I don't. Most people don't. Something are better left unsaid for the sake of others well being. My feelings were hurt on multiple occasions by this person. Here's the point...
People can be rude, bitter and hateful. Sometimes these people are like this in pursuit of something innocent. Some people are bitter and blunt just to be honest. Some people are rude for the sake of others. Still, there are some times for you to be honest. Other times, keep the "truth" to yourself. Being mean because what you say is the truth doesn't make you a good person. It makes you seem cruel and heartless. Sometimes people ARE just cruel and heartless. Still, you need to know that sometimes you keep the truth to yourself. Honesty isn't always nice. Some subjects aren't for you to tamper with. Know that there are boundaries that you mustn't cross. I have one more thing to say...
People that put down others and hurt their feelings just to be honest are sad and disgusting people. There is NOTHING noble about hurt others. Words sting and so they should be used wisely. Don't take it upon yourself to be the bearer of the truth....because it makes YOU seem like an awful person. Of course, there are some times that the truth is necessary. There are times when it's crucial to vocalize. Still...pick your words wisely. Be kind. Be sincere.
beGolden
Jahmal
Thursday, February 25, 2010
Thursday, February 11, 2010
Build a snowman.....
Optimism - looking on the bright side...
Ok...It snows in Rochester NY. It snows for days on end. It gets deep...it gets cold...it gets white. People complain and it gets annoying. We live in Rochester and every year...it snows. It snows for a long time. Sometimes i give in to the snow...I complain, too. But there's a better way to deal with the cold...They are a few ways to deal with the cold.
1. Make a snow man...When life gives you snow...play with it.
2. Snuggle....It feels good and it keeps you warm.
3. Crack out a sweater...nuff said.
4. Make all those hot dishes that you locked away for summer.
Lemme say it one more time for all those who need it. When life gives you snow...play with it. Don't just moan and groan in the face of a cold winter. This goes for everything. When life gives you lemons....stop asking for apple juice.
beGolden
Jahmal
Ok...It snows in Rochester NY. It snows for days on end. It gets deep...it gets cold...it gets white. People complain and it gets annoying. We live in Rochester and every year...it snows. It snows for a long time. Sometimes i give in to the snow...I complain, too. But there's a better way to deal with the cold...They are a few ways to deal with the cold.
1. Make a snow man...When life gives you snow...play with it.
2. Snuggle....It feels good and it keeps you warm.
3. Crack out a sweater...nuff said.
4. Make all those hot dishes that you locked away for summer.
Lemme say it one more time for all those who need it. When life gives you snow...play with it. Don't just moan and groan in the face of a cold winter. This goes for everything. When life gives you lemons....stop asking for apple juice.
beGolden
Jahmal
the quirkier things...
quirky - A peculiarity of behavior...that's alright...
Lets give 'em a quick post while I'm in school...Lemme tell you about one of the weird things i do. You see, I write EVERYTHING in my Italian leather diary. I write my dreams, my ideas, my crushes, my lovely thoughts, my dirty thoughts....everything....Its a great release. It's how i keep track of myself and where my mind goes. Not many people write in a diary anymore...Not many BOYS write in a diary at all. Its one of my little quirky things. Everyone has a little quirky thing. One of those things that we do that don't make sense all the time but still they feel really good. Sometimes i like sleeping in all of my clothes. Sometimes i like to lay on the floor...only when I'm upset at night though. I like to listen to music while I'm in the shower. I ADORE baking when i have nothing else to do. The the list of my quirky things is biblical in scale. Everyone has some quirky things....if you don't...get one. Or a dozen.
Sometimes we do things that don't make sense and don't mean anything to other people. These things feel good sometimes. They feel better than they would to others. Still, its good to have a few quirky things. Its good to have some quirk to us...it proves that we aren't the same as our neighbors. It keeps us mentally and spiritually healthy sometimes. Sure, we may be the only one who...for example...likes to eat peanut butter while reading Oprah's Magazine. But if it feels good...have at it! If we're lucky...we'll find someone that does the quirkier things that we do. Point...Don't be afraid to give in to the quirkier things.
beGolden
Jahmal
Lets give 'em a quick post while I'm in school...Lemme tell you about one of the weird things i do. You see, I write EVERYTHING in my Italian leather diary. I write my dreams, my ideas, my crushes, my lovely thoughts, my dirty thoughts....everything....Its a great release. It's how i keep track of myself and where my mind goes. Not many people write in a diary anymore...Not many BOYS write in a diary at all. Its one of my little quirky things. Everyone has a little quirky thing. One of those things that we do that don't make sense all the time but still they feel really good. Sometimes i like sleeping in all of my clothes. Sometimes i like to lay on the floor...only when I'm upset at night though. I like to listen to music while I'm in the shower. I ADORE baking when i have nothing else to do. The the list of my quirky things is biblical in scale. Everyone has some quirky things....if you don't...get one. Or a dozen.
Sometimes we do things that don't make sense and don't mean anything to other people. These things feel good sometimes. They feel better than they would to others. Still, its good to have a few quirky things. Its good to have some quirk to us...it proves that we aren't the same as our neighbors. It keeps us mentally and spiritually healthy sometimes. Sure, we may be the only one who...for example...likes to eat peanut butter while reading Oprah's Magazine. But if it feels good...have at it! If we're lucky...we'll find someone that does the quirkier things that we do. Point...Don't be afraid to give in to the quirkier things.
beGolden
Jahmal
Friday, February 5, 2010
suppression...and why you shouldnt make my mistake
suppression - the conscious intentional exclusion from consciousness of a thought or feeling
I have preached to my readers about habits and why they are negative. I told you all to break habits before they weave into your personality. I must confess something. Sometimes, I write things to you because i don't want you to go through things that i have. I don't want you to feel the way i feel. My habits are bad ones and i wish i had taken my own advice. I don't handle stress and other negative emotion well. I tend to do things that are counterproductive. One of my major habits is suppression. Sometimes I choose to smile instead of frown before the public. MOST times i wear a smile when I'm stressed or angry or depressed. This actually doesn't feel to bad...until i get home. Until i look at myself or reflect on my day. Until i realize that something is wrong. Then i emote and cry and stress myself out even more. It gets bad sometimes. The worst thing is when i don't reflect or look at myself when i get home. If i don't, it all comes out later. It flows out of me in full force. When that occurs....stay away. It's a sucky habit, ya know. But still its really difficult to break. Here goes the point....
I have a bad habit. It's awful and if i was smart and strong enough, i would have handled it when it started. Instead....I chose to do what felt better temporarily. Emphasis on TEMPORARILY! It sucks so don't do it....it makes your life so much harder. It feels better to emote. It feels better to cry when it hurts. It doesn't feel good when it all comes out at a party or at a trip to the cafe with friends. We all have those days....weeks...months...years....but suppression isn't the way to make it better. Deal with your problems head on...cry when it hurts...scream (in your pillow) when you're angry. Its beautiful to scream...its gorgeous to cry...try it.
beGolden
Jahmal
I have preached to my readers about habits and why they are negative. I told you all to break habits before they weave into your personality. I must confess something. Sometimes, I write things to you because i don't want you to go through things that i have. I don't want you to feel the way i feel. My habits are bad ones and i wish i had taken my own advice. I don't handle stress and other negative emotion well. I tend to do things that are counterproductive. One of my major habits is suppression. Sometimes I choose to smile instead of frown before the public. MOST times i wear a smile when I'm stressed or angry or depressed. This actually doesn't feel to bad...until i get home. Until i look at myself or reflect on my day. Until i realize that something is wrong. Then i emote and cry and stress myself out even more. It gets bad sometimes. The worst thing is when i don't reflect or look at myself when i get home. If i don't, it all comes out later. It flows out of me in full force. When that occurs....stay away. It's a sucky habit, ya know. But still its really difficult to break. Here goes the point....
I have a bad habit. It's awful and if i was smart and strong enough, i would have handled it when it started. Instead....I chose to do what felt better temporarily. Emphasis on TEMPORARILY! It sucks so don't do it....it makes your life so much harder. It feels better to emote. It feels better to cry when it hurts. It doesn't feel good when it all comes out at a party or at a trip to the cafe with friends. We all have those days....weeks...months...years....but suppression isn't the way to make it better. Deal with your problems head on...cry when it hurts...scream (in your pillow) when you're angry. Its beautiful to scream...its gorgeous to cry...try it.
beGolden
Jahmal
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
for the have nots....
crisis - a condition of instability or danger, as in social, economic, political, or international affairs, leading to a decisive change...hopefully.
We take so much for granted. Americans live a VERY privileged life compared to other peoples in different countries. Most of us don't put enough energy towards those who don't have as much as us. We flip out when we don't have ipods or new clothes. Meanwhile, a child in some third world country is without food, warmth, shelter, clean water...The list goes on. Some people suffer daily. We, privileged Americans, go to therapists and doctors. Doctors are luxuries for some. Therapists are more than most get. We can be such pompous creatures. We pride ourselves on materials while others pride themselves on getting dinner for their children. Some pride themselves on living another day and still smiling. Some pride themselves on survival and sacrifice. Whats upsetting is that some of these very same people, the have-nots, live right down the street from us. Some of them live right around the corner. Some of them you see in school. Some of them you don't acknowledge. What of them?
We have grown too materialist..too oblivious...too content in our everyday lives. Others suffer daily and we don't even care as long as the phone is charged and the computer is working. A lot of people won't care as long as THEY have food and a place to live. Until it affects us...a lot of us wont care. Get active. Speak out. Stop being selfish and do something for those who have less than you. Its a hard world we live in. Its full of anger and pain...and some of us are living with it everyday. Some people feel it everyday. Some people are at the bottom and they know how it feels not to know where the next meal is coming from. If you're reading this, you're probably not starving. Try donating. Try giving back. We live lives of abundance...give a little. If you need more reason....know that it'll help out your karma.
beGolden
Jahmal
We take so much for granted. Americans live a VERY privileged life compared to other peoples in different countries. Most of us don't put enough energy towards those who don't have as much as us. We flip out when we don't have ipods or new clothes. Meanwhile, a child in some third world country is without food, warmth, shelter, clean water...The list goes on. Some people suffer daily. We, privileged Americans, go to therapists and doctors. Doctors are luxuries for some. Therapists are more than most get. We can be such pompous creatures. We pride ourselves on materials while others pride themselves on getting dinner for their children. Some pride themselves on living another day and still smiling. Some pride themselves on survival and sacrifice. Whats upsetting is that some of these very same people, the have-nots, live right down the street from us. Some of them live right around the corner. Some of them you see in school. Some of them you don't acknowledge. What of them?
We have grown too materialist..too oblivious...too content in our everyday lives. Others suffer daily and we don't even care as long as the phone is charged and the computer is working. A lot of people won't care as long as THEY have food and a place to live. Until it affects us...a lot of us wont care. Get active. Speak out. Stop being selfish and do something for those who have less than you. Its a hard world we live in. Its full of anger and pain...and some of us are living with it everyday. Some people feel it everyday. Some people are at the bottom and they know how it feels not to know where the next meal is coming from. If you're reading this, you're probably not starving. Try donating. Try giving back. We live lives of abundance...give a little. If you need more reason....know that it'll help out your karma.
beGolden
Jahmal
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
...renew...the purpose of humanity
purpose - the reason for which something exists or is done, made, used, etc.
I've been taught to practice daily....purpose. Though i have suffered with purpose for a very long time. It wasn't until recently that i realized what my purpose was. I'm here to teach, inspire, love, be loved, to leak creativity into my surroundings and absorbs all that is beautiful. Today, and every day, i practice these things. Through this blog. With my journal. With my friends. Then i thought about the purpose of others. Of humans in general. I realized something. Humans have a pattern, a constant in life, that inclines them to create, challenge and destroy. Every civilization has victimized or been a victim of others or nature. Is that our purpose, then? Are we meant to destroy and victimize? I we here to pain the earth and our brothers? I say no. I believe that we were placed here to love and create. Somehow, we've moved away from our original purpose. We're treading a dangerous road that will lead to more destruction. What will we tell our children when there is nothing left to hate?
This creation is about love and acting in the image of some creator. We were made in the image of our personal gods, beautiful and loving. So, create. Love. Be loved and spread beauty. Practice daily purpose, your purpose, our purpose. Try to act on this. If not for a future that you would want your children and your siblings to live in.
beGolden and live a purposeful life
Jahmal
I've been taught to practice daily....purpose. Though i have suffered with purpose for a very long time. It wasn't until recently that i realized what my purpose was. I'm here to teach, inspire, love, be loved, to leak creativity into my surroundings and absorbs all that is beautiful. Today, and every day, i practice these things. Through this blog. With my journal. With my friends. Then i thought about the purpose of others. Of humans in general. I realized something. Humans have a pattern, a constant in life, that inclines them to create, challenge and destroy. Every civilization has victimized or been a victim of others or nature. Is that our purpose, then? Are we meant to destroy and victimize? I we here to pain the earth and our brothers? I say no. I believe that we were placed here to love and create. Somehow, we've moved away from our original purpose. We're treading a dangerous road that will lead to more destruction. What will we tell our children when there is nothing left to hate?
This creation is about love and acting in the image of some creator. We were made in the image of our personal gods, beautiful and loving. So, create. Love. Be loved and spread beauty. Practice daily purpose, your purpose, our purpose. Try to act on this. If not for a future that you would want your children and your siblings to live in.
beGolden and live a purposeful life
Jahmal
Sunday, January 10, 2010
A short post...nature and observing its beauty
au natural - (get your mind out of the gutter!) in a natural state.
Emerson once birthed forth one of my FAVOURITE quotes EVER. "The world laughs in flowers..." After hearing this...my heart stopped and my mind started running. What does this mean to you? To me...It means that everything that is beautiful is natural. It means that the world's beauty can be seen in flowers and nature in general! The world of things that inspire and captivate people. Everyone has seen something natural that was simply breathtaking. Here's my point....
The world DOES laugh in flowers...so go and smell them. Experience and observe nature and its beauty. Feel the distinction between the trees and the flowers and the grass! Feel the sun and the moon and be thankful for both of them. Acknowledge the power of the wind and water and think about how messed up we'd be without either. Stop stepping on spiders...as creepy as they are. Know that even the most UGLY things that are natural are still beautiful....even -shivers- spiders....The world is full of things that can knock you out of your shoes...so go and look at it. GO EXPERIENCE AND LOVE IT! That's why it's here... : )
beGolden
Jahmal
Emerson once birthed forth one of my FAVOURITE quotes EVER. "The world laughs in flowers..." After hearing this...my heart stopped and my mind started running. What does this mean to you? To me...It means that everything that is beautiful is natural. It means that the world's beauty can be seen in flowers and nature in general! The world of things that inspire and captivate people. Everyone has seen something natural that was simply breathtaking. Here's my point....
The world DOES laugh in flowers...so go and smell them. Experience and observe nature and its beauty. Feel the distinction between the trees and the flowers and the grass! Feel the sun and the moon and be thankful for both of them. Acknowledge the power of the wind and water and think about how messed up we'd be without either. Stop stepping on spiders...as creepy as they are. Know that even the most UGLY things that are natural are still beautiful....even -shivers- spiders....The world is full of things that can knock you out of your shoes...so go and look at it. GO EXPERIENCE AND LOVE IT! That's why it's here... : )
beGolden
Jahmal
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